Friday, June 13, 2008

Sex - God's way or the world's way?

This week's small group curriculum is my fifth and final of the Extreme Home Makeover series. It is sub-titled "The Bedroom" and might be considered to be PG-13 by some.

Big Idea:
We live in a culture that shamelessly promotes and engages in a distorted view of sex. The world has taken what God created for good and has used it for evil. As Christians, we are called to not conform to this world, but instead follow God’s guidelines.

God created sex and therefore, it is good. Let’s look at why God created sex. Genesis tells us that God told Adam and Eve to “be fruitful and multiply.” He also said that, “A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh.” So, we see that God created sex for procreation, but He also used it to create a special intimacy between man and woman like nothing else could. This intimacy creates a powerful bond at all levels: physical, emotional, and spiritual. And this is why scripture is so clear that sex is designed only for the marriage relationship between one man and one woman. The boundaries are very simple and straightforward: do not have sex while not married, do not have sex outside your marriage, and do not selfishly withhold sex or force sex within your marriage.

However, to his own destruction, man has made a practice of venturing outside of God’s boundaries. Sexual sin has serious consequences spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Sexual sin is extremely hurtful because it is a sin against God, against others, and against our own bodies. Intentional disobedience of God's command not to commit adultery dishonors and displeases Him. Conversely, God is pleased when His children choose obedience and self-control instead of the immediacy of pleasure outside of His wise, protective boundaries.

So, where sex is concerned, we can either choose God’s way and experience the incredible benefits and beauty of His plans or we can choose the world’s way, which leaves a huge wake of pain, destruction, and separation.

Discussion Questions: (You may want to discuss these questions in two separate groups: men only & women only.)

1 Corinthians 6:12-20
Why is sexual sin so bad? Who is it hurting? Give examples of how you can avoid sexual immorality.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
Contrast how the world views sex with how Christians should view sex. How can improper physical intimacy harm others? Is there a possibility of “getting away” with sexual sin?

1 Corinthians 7:2-5
Why can it be dangerous to withhold sex for long periods of time? How can sex be used selfishly in marriage?

Taking Action: Repent from any past sexual sins. Ask God to break any unhealthy emotional and spiritual ties created by past sexual sin. Commit to remaining pure from this day forth so that you can honor God with your whole being. Ask God to forgive you and to give you the grace to live in victory.

Ministry Time

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