What’s up with Jesus telling us to hate our spouse? Is that His message in Luke 14:26 when he says,
"If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, his wife and children, his brothers and sisters—yes, even his own life—he cannot be my disciple.”No, that is not what Jesus is talking about. He is saying that we must make everything and everyone a distant 2nd. We must be willing to depend solely on Christ. We cannot elevate anyone to the position of Christ – this includes our spouse.
But, does God use us to minister to each other? Yes. Did God bring us together so that we can uplift and encourage one another? Yes. But, we must remember that we have limits. However, God is limitless in His ability to satisfy.
Where are you expecting your fulfillment to come from – the world, your friends, your spouse, or God? We must look to God for satisfaction and fulfillment. Looking to anything or anyone else will leave us disappointed. Only God truly satisfies. Let’s make looking to the Lord our natural response.
Does this let us off the hook? Can we use this truth as an excuse to ignore our responsibilities as a husband or a wife? Is this our license to slack-off and revert to selfishness? By no means! We are called to love and serve one another. We are called to be Christ to each other. Husbands, you are called to love your wife like Christ loves His church. Wives, you are called to submit to your husbands.
Let's approach our spouse is this manner:
8Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 9Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. 10Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve [the other], faithfully administering God's grace in its various forms. 11If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen. - 1 Peter 4:8-11