Jesus proclaimed 2,000 years ago that the reasons being used to justify divorce no longer hold water. Why? Because, the kingdom of God has come. And because the kingdom of God has come, everything has changed - including marriage. Jesus came to make everything right again. Because of Christ and because the kingdom has come, we now have all we need to stay married. Is divorce really an option if we are living in God’s kingdom? No! Because the kingdom has come and because of Christ, our hearts no longer need to be hardened toward each other and we can now live His way. “We have all we need for life and godliness.” Jesus has thrown the excuse of “irreconcilable differences” right out the window; this is no longer a legitimate reason for divorce.
What about infidelity? What about adultery? At first glance, it looks like Jesus leaves the door open for divorce in these situations. (Matthew 19:9) But, before we quickly make an assumption that divorce is always OK in the case of adultery, let’s take a look back at the passage in the Gospel of Matthew which immediately precedes this passage on divorce. Forgiveness is the theme of His teaching at the end of Matthew 18. If we follow His teaching on forgiveness, then divorce will not occur because of an act of infidelity. How could we claim to have forgiveness for our spouse if we divorce them after they have repented from the sin of adultery? I realize there are some extremely unique circumstances that can only be addressed on a case-by-case basis, but why do we throw the divorce card out there so quickly when there has been infidelity? Sadly, church leaders are often guilty of quickly encouraging or endorsing divorce when adultery happens. But, is divorce the answer? Is it God’s way? I submit it is not.
“Whatever God has joined together, let NO MAN separate.” – Matthew 19:6Before I conclude, I want to speak to those who might have divorced for un-biblical reasons. Remember, God is full of mercy and forgiveness. Therefore, repent and accept the amazing forgiveness of God.